Personal, Wedding / February 2, 2017

The Proposal

Candlelight proposal

We’re now just five months away from the wedding!

I’ve had lots of people ask how Matt proposed, so I thought it would be fun to do a post with both of us telling our sides of the story. I’m even letting Matt go first. ๐Ÿ™‚


Everyone always asks forย the “how he proposed” story (hence, this post) and I was (understandably) stressed thinking about how to do it. Naomi had described her ideal proposal as “in front of a castle, while it was lightly snowing,” {inspired by this pin} but, considering that it was summer and we didn’t live in Medieval Europe, I didn’t have much to work with. All of the traditional proposals (like at dinner) seemed too public, so I decided to trust in a different cliche: candles.

Naomi’s commute home would take about two hours. So, I planned to be waiting for her when she got home on Friday (I thought about 7:00) and had dinner reservations for 8:00. But, I tend to worry (and parking at Naomi’s apartment after 3:00 is terrible), so I went over earlier. I neglected to tell anyone (besides Naomi’s best friend, Ashley) about my proposal plans, so I snuck aย box of 48 candles and my suit out of the house without anyone knowing and arrived at Naomi’s around 2:00. I opened the candles and began to write out “Will you marry me?” with them, but 48 candles weren’t enough, so I just wrote “Marry Me.” (Naomi was quick to point out that the lack of punctuation made it seem like a demand, but I had enough to put a period if I wanted to.)

Naomi left work early that day, however, (thank goodness she let me know; I had been dropping hints or something, I guess) so, I was forced to move up my timeline. I got dressed in my suit, closed all of the blinds, and debated about when to light the candles.

Have you ever seen the episode of The Office where Michael proposes to Holly with the candles? I had significantly fewer candles, but I was still worried that I, too, would set off the fire alarm. I eventually lit the candles, but then continuedย to worry, so I called her to see where she was. As it turns out, she was in the parking garage of her apartment, walking to her door. “Okay … bye,” I said (maybe too abruptly) and grabbed the ring and knelt behind the illuminated message.

She opened the door and said, “REALLY?” I had prepared a speech, but couldn’t remember, so all I managed to say in between her shouting “REALLY?” was “Will you marry me?”, to which she responded “REALLY?” Eventually I said, “yes, really,” and she finally accepted it as a reality.


A lot of people say that they had no idea a proposal was coming, but that is definitely not true for me.

Matt and my friend’s boyfriend (now fiance) had been teasing us for weeks about how we needed to make sure our nails looked nice, but right before 4th of July weekend, Matt was laying it on especially thick. He asked me what I was wearing to work the next day, asked to see the outfit, and then startedย talking about how it was going to be a “big weekend.” And when I said I knew (I mean, we did have a lot of plans), he said, “No, it’s going to be a really big weekend.”

So, by that point, I’d pretty much figured out that he was going to propose on Friday or Monday (because we had plans on Saturday and Sunday, and I knew he wouldn’t propose around other people).ย I almost said, “Are you going to propose?” but I decided to be nice and just hold my tongue.

On Friday, I got off work an hour early (for the holiday weekend), and I texted Matt to say that I was on my way home – just in case. I made especially good time on my drive that afternoon, and Matt called me just as I was pulling into the parking garage. He was like, “Where are you?” And when I told him that I was basically home, he said, “Ok bye,” and hung up on me.

That was prettyyy suspicious, so I spent the entire walk from my car to my apartment (which takes approximately 90 seconds) giving myself a pep talk about how I was probably reading too much into this, he was probably going to be doing homework in basketball shorts when I walked in, and I didn’t need to be upset about it.

So you can see how I was feeling like it was a little too good to be true when I opened the door to a dark apartment withย a candlelit glow. And then I saw Matt down on one knee with a ring box. I literally threw my purse into the kitchen (away from the open flames) and was like “Really?!?!” And then I maybe repeated myselfย about four or five times, until Matt was finally like, “Yes.”

Then, of course, I had to put on the ring, and actually look at what the candles said. (I assumed that they were something along the lines of “Will you marry me?” but I was too distracted to look initially.) And then we opened the mini bottle of champagne I bought the week before (you know, just in case), and started calling people to say we were engaged!

Yellow gold engagement ringThe Proposal




  1. Sandy Maxa a.k.a. Mom

    I like reading Matt’s version too!

    03 . Feb . 2017
    • Naomi

      Thanks, Madre. ๐Ÿ™‚

      03 . Feb . 2017
  2. Bobbi Maynes

    Love both versions ๐Ÿ’• The two of you complement each other nicely! Cheers to a new beginning chapter of your lives! ๐Ÿท

    03 . Feb . 2017
  3. Bobbi Maynes

    Love both versions ๐Ÿ’• Cheers to a new exciting chapter in your lives! ๐Ÿท

    03 . Feb . 2017
  4. Bobbi Maynes

    Sorry on the road in southern Mississippi and the signal is not the best! I didn’t think the post went through hence the second post ๐Ÿค”

    03 . Feb . 2017
    • Naomi

      Haha I thought it was fitting that you posted it twice – one for each version. ๐Ÿ™‚

      03 . Feb . 2017

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